I don’t watch the show, but the controversy caught my eye.

Is the latest winner too thin? And is the risk of anorexia an inherent pitfall in a show where you have to lose weight to win?

But I don’t think either of these questions is the real bottom line.

The real questions of success in life are not based on our weight–plus or minus a few BMI points.

The real question is strength. Are we strong? Are we sheltering others?

Are we shedding light?

A cursory walk through history will tell you that for thousands of years a little fat on our bones was essential for survival.

So make no mistake–our cultural obsession with thin is arbitrary and often deadly.

Fortitude, however, the strength of mind and heart, is a dying art.